Do you suffer from FOMO?

Do you suffer from board game “Fear of missing out”? I know I definitely do. I suffer from two types - cult of the new and expansion content.

Cult of the new FOMO is pretty straightforward- you hear everyone talking about a new game and suddenly you find yourself contemplating acquiring said game. You fear missing out on the new experience and find yourself looking to buy the game at your earliest convenience. I find that Kickstarter plays into this fear quite a bit - back now! Kickstarter exclusive! Will never hit retail! This acknowledges that people fear missing out on the next cool game and are willing to pay handsomely to join the club.  This is actually one of my biggest complaints about Kickstarter - but that’s a discussion for a different thread. 

The other type of fear I suffer from is expansion FOMO. This is extremely evident in #A Feast For Odin. I love the base game but every time I play it I know there is an incredible expansion out there and my brain tells me that I need to get #A Feast For Odin: The Norwegians Expansion in order to enjoy the game fully. Which then starts to sour my enjoyment of the base game.

 It’s also a problem for me with #Star Wars Imperial Assault. Early on I acquired all the boxed expansions and that satisfied my fear for a while, but now I’m on a quest to get all the small expansions and it’s incredible how expensive all those bubble packed expansions are. But my brain keeps telling me that in order to enjoy the game more fully I need to keep going until I have everything!  It doesn’t help that the app version has a collection manager that shows you how much of the game you’ve collected... 

I do find that acknowledgment of these fears helps me manage them better. The cult of the new FOMO doesn’t bother me as much now as it once did. I am definitely suffering from the expansion content fear right now though...

What about you? Does anyone else share these same fears? Or do you have different ones?

7 points by Skurvy5 - updated 31 days ago | 35 comments | report | subscribe

Carighan 35 days ago | 1 point[-]

As someone who has been going to the Essen Spiel since ~forever, I used to have really bad FOMO in regards to games that I could only realistically get there. I'd get super worried I might not be able to snag up a copy, and would go to great lengths to import them if I missed them.

Curiously, modern Kickstarter board games have utterly destroyed this part for me, and in the process have killed any FOMO I sometimes I had entirely. Since I no longer look forward to "picking up" games at Essen (since half the booths just tell you "Oh we're not selling you anything, but you can back our Kickstarter in 2 months by which you'll have long forgotten about us though"), I also no longer "look forward to" board games in general. I enjoy what I get, I enjoy what I have, I enjoy playing, but I no longer feel any anticipation. At all. For any board game.

Skurvy5 Supporter35 days ago | 1 point[-]

Well that is definitely a healthy attitude to have! Good job. I am not at all a fan of Kickstarter. 

philryuh Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

One single moment when I experienced something like that was with #Marvel Champions: The Card Game. I had been eyeing it and saw that it was on the shelf at my local store at a competitive price. It was during the time when it was such a hot game and was talked about everywhere, so it felt like it would go out of stock relatively quickly online and I'd have to wait whoever knows how long. I left it at that for a week and by then, I cooled down on it and realized I don't want it as much as I thought I did.

Edit: Besides that occasion, I typically don't have FOMO issues. It's so nice that I'm "behind" and there are tons of classics out there that I'd love to buy.

Skurvy5 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

I think you do a really good job on this Phil. You are very thoughtful and careful with your purchases. 

philryuh Supporter35 days ago | 1 point[-]

It really helps to have limited budget for it! If I had had a much bigger salary or less stuff to take care of, I think I'd be buying a lot more often. But to your point, I really do have a very focused preference for games.

sdirrane Supporter35 days ago | 1 point[-]

Amen.  I think my resolution has helped me back off on the Board game "research" and has helped stem any FOMO I may have.

Skurvy5 Supporter35 days ago | 1 point[-]

I think my board game research increases my FOMO, because every game I read about makes me excited. Well. Almost every game. 

sdirrane Supporter35 days ago | 1 point[-]

Oh yeah for sure.  I haven't really looked into much recently which has helped.  I really want to be intentional with what I have (which you already know).  But that has helped.  I'm trying to not look at the new shiny toy but play with what I've got already.  I have a lot of games I really really like.  And some I've only played once this year (of course that's due in part to Covid).  But I'm starting to get more plays in.

trentellingsen Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

I felt a lot of FOMO when I first got into the hobby which resulted in me getting 30 games within the first 6 months. It was pretty awesome.

Skurvy5 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Do you regret any of those purchases today?

trentellingsen Supporter37 days ago | 1 point[-]

Nope! They’ve all been great :). Fortunately most were well established games and I’m pretty easy to please haha

philryuh Supporter37 days ago | 1 point[-]

How about #Black Angel?

Skurvy5 Supporter37 days ago | 1 point[-]

I really would like to try that one. I was warm, then cool, but now I think I’m warming up to it again. 

capnbishop 38 days ago | 1 point[-]

I consider FOMO to be different from completionism.  Though they can go hand in hand, completionism is what drives me to get expansions that I don't really need, and might not even necessarily want.  FOMO comes in to play for games that have a limited retail release.  Completionism drives me to pick up those overpriced Mysterium expansion decks.  FOMO drove me to back 7th Continent.

Completionism is tough to wrestle with, but I only have so much cash and picking up another game usually wins over picking up an expansion (which is a different issue...).  FOMO, however, I find pretty easy to deal with because a lot of my purchases are heavily driven by research and user reviews.  Fancy advertising and Kickstarter exclusive only hold so much sway over me if it's not thoroughly vetted by the community.  That was a big factor in the few Kickstarters I've backed, like 7th Continent and Pax Pamir: both second printings that had already been played and reviewed by people.

bahdom 38 days ago | 1 point[-]

I have FOMO and completionism T_T

Skurvy5 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Me too. Lol. 

Courageous Bob 38 days ago | 1 point[-]

I don't tend to get many expansions as a rule as I tend to enjoy heavier games and so these are the ones for which the expansions appeal but I rarely play the same game with exactly the same group of people and so I feel like I will rarely get to utilise the expansion unless it adds minimal extra teaching to the game.

I tend to be about 3-4 years behind on purchasing games (if not longer) so I have come to terms with the fact that I am constantly missing out 😄

theDL 38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Haha, being behind is a good strategy. No FOMO, cheaper games (usually), plenty of second hand options.

Skurvy5 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

No FOMO.... or you have so much FOMO because you missed out on so much? Lol

Courageous Bob 38 days ago | 1 point[-]

That's my thinking (and my wallet's) too. Although it does sometimes mean I see all the hype/goo reviews for a game and feel the urge to splash out 😅

Skurvy5 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Fortunately I’ve got my wife to keep me in check. 

theDL 38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Haha, what was the last one that got you?

Courageous Bob 37 days ago | 1 point[-]

#The Defence of Procyon III was my splurge. It won't arrive for a year but it just looked like nothing I'd ever seen before

Skurvy5 Supporter37 days ago | 1 point[-]

Interesting! I love me some space games. 

Courageous Bob 37 days ago | 1 point[-]

It's on TTS but the Kickstarter has ended but I am sure it will come out eventually

theDL 37 days ago | 1 point[-]

Huh, hasn't heard of that one. Nice!

Courageous Bob 37 days ago | 1 point[-]

It's worth a look, it's a 4 player, 2 team asymmetric game. On player of each team is controling their fleet in space and the other controlling the ground forces. All four of the fillets/armies play very differently. I've tried it a couple of times on TTS and it seems like it needs a little fine tuning but is otherwise a wonderful dynamic that is set up

theDL 37 days ago | 1 point[-]

Wow that does sound cool. I'll see if I can find a video or two about it!

Courageous Bob 37 days ago | 1 point[-]

They got the dice tower to do a playthrough with the designer kind of commentating although it is a long game, I didn't get through all of it.

sdirrane Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Thankfully I don't often suffer from FOMO with games.  I think for me the only time it would happen is if it's a game I really like but know I would never get to the table.  But this has nothing to do with how the greater gaming community views the game.

I agree that is one of the worst aspects of Kickstarter.  But I also see the need for companies to do this because Marketing is important and it works.  Thankfully not on me.

As fas as expansions go, I only really feel I need an expansion if it adds significantly to my enjoyment of the game.  This is why I've been able to avoid getting most small box #Star Wars Imperial Assault expansions.  I think if I played Skirmish mode often they would draw my attention more.  Having said that, it's hard to not get the Obi Wan, Luke Jedi, or other cool small box expansions because I think it'd be really fun to have.  But not practical.

With many things I try to just focus on what I have and how good it is and try not to look around at what others have.

Marshwiggle92 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

So, I don't suffer from fomo as much as I used to. But, the fomo I do have sometimes is a third type. It is called, "everybody else has it." There are a lot of games out there, and there are a lot of very very highly regarded games that I haven't played. And I am sometimes worried that said games will go out of stock before I can get/play them. 

Courageous Bob 38 days ago | 1 point[-]

I often find it almost off-putting if everyone around me has a game. Not that it puts me off the game but buying it. As I often think I won't end up getting much use out of my version as other people will bring their copies to club nights or game evenings etc. For example, I love #Architects of the West Kingdom and my partner picked up on this and bought it for me but two other people in my club have it already so I've never bothered taking it along.

Skurvy5 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Hi Chris! Good to see you again. How are all of your animals doing? Was your week as busy as you expected?

This is a good one. I’ll Add this to my list of fears as well.  What’s a game that’s caused you fear in this category recently?

Marshwiggle92 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Everything is mostly ok. This week has been fairly good, I have been very busy, but it is nice to be busy sometimes in this time of lockdown and quarantine. Still haven't had a chance to play a game this week, I think that makes like 3 weeks of not playing, which is a record for me..... But, who knows, maybe I'll have a chance this afternoon.

As far as games go, I would probably say #Gandhi: The Decolonization of British India, 1917 – 1947. It looks like it is going out of stock in a lot of places, and, it will be reprinted, but I don't know how long it will take. But, I already have a COIN game that I haven't played yet, I don't even know for sure if I like the system........I have resisted the temptation thus far, and I expect to continue resisting it.

Skurvy5 Supporter38 days ago | 1 point[-]

Keep up the good fight Chris. Glad to hear everything is going ok on the Homefront.